Chris has not slept in about a month. He has had a weight on his shoulders. He had a lofty decision to make between career ambition and family. It is true that you can have both career ambition and a strong and healthy family life; but in this case Chris knew that his career choice would come at a cost to his family.
It is an interesting crossroad to come to when you realize that the career ambition you once had does not exist in a bubble. That with a young family, there are powers at play that may be more important than the hefty job title and the power that exists in the corporate sphere.
Chris’ awesome new promotion came with 80% travel and a ton of responsibility. We as a family included the children in our conversations about this new opportunity and the amount of time their dad would be away from home.
We thought it would all work out.
In the four weeks Chris worked this new traveling job Preston cried a lot. He missed his dad. When Chris was home Preston would be anxious about Chris leaving again.
On weekends when Chris would leave the house and go into the garage to get something, Elsie would frantically ask if her dad was leaving again.
Violet inquired every night about when her dad would come home. She said she missed him.
The relationship between Ava and Chris suffered.
During these weeks when Chris was away I worked like a maniac driving kids to their activities and made sure everyone had dinner on my own. I read to everyone by myself. I lay in bed with each one of my babies and kissed them goodnight each night, trying to fill the role of both parents. Then I collapsed in my bed, exhausted.
That was our new life. But the new arrangement was not working well for our family.
Chris had to make a very difficult decision. Ultimately, he chose his family over his work ambition. He had to give up that job that was his dream so many years ago before the kids came along. His heart broke but he knew he was doing the right thing.
He may have let some people down. He may have burned some bridges with people he cares about. He may have hurt some feelings. He isn’t sleeping at night because this weighs heavy on his heart.
What Chris did, though, is take the courageous path. He took a risk. He made a change. He may have not have handled it perfectly, but by doing what he felt is right for his family, he ultimately chose the right path.
In life you can only hope that if you do the right thing for the right reasons, everything will work out and there will be success, love and understanding as an outcome.
That is the lesson for us to teach our children. That is the lesson for us to remind ourselves even in adulthood.
Until next time, the mothership is signing off.